Wrestling Boys

QUESTION:  My boys are always wrestling and roughhousing.  I worry that they will become too violent.  My husband says they are just “being boys.”  Who’s right? ANSWER:  Most boys enjoy being physical.  The testosterone surging in their bodies makes them want...

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When Bad Things Happen

QUESTION:  I’m having a great deal of difficulty in explaining to my 9-year-old why God doesn’t always protect us from bad things.  Can you help? ANSWER:  This is a wonderful, but difficult, opportunity for you and your child to have numerous conversations. ...

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Using God

In reading through the book of Zechariah, I found a poignant challenge to us suburban Christians.  The Jews had returned from exile and were in the process of rebuilding the temple in Jerusalem.  The “word of the Lord Almighty”...

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Uninvolved Dad

QUESTION:   How can I get my husband to take a more active role in parenting our children?  He seems to think bringing home the paycheck is the most important thing he can do for us.  He works long hours...

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Unappreciative Kid

QUESTION:  More and more, I look at my kids with sadness because of their general selfishness and lack of awareness of people in need.  How do we as parents help our children develop gratefulness and appreciation? ANSWER:  It should come...

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TV and the Brain

QUESTION:   I never thought I would do this, but I find that I use the TV as a babysitter more often than I would like.  I try to make certain the programs my kids watch are educational, but I...

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Turning the Other Cheek

QUESTION:  My teenager is argumentative and angry.  He goes through periods of not speaking to my wife and me.  He is not blatantly disrespectful, but is very close to it. He knows the right buttons to push.  I am...

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Three Life Questions

QUESTION:  Sometimes my child's behavior just baffles me.  Is there a method to their madness? ANSWER:  Although behavior many times SEEMS random and purposeless, it never is.  All learned behaviors (and most unlearned behaviors too) have a definite purpose.  Behaviors can...

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Temperament

QUESTION:  As parents, we have really tried hard to raise our children alike, but they seem a different as night and day.  It seems like they were born with certain personality characteristics.  We always thought a personality was something...

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Teens and Music

QUESTION:  My 13-year-old son loves to listen to music.  Unfortunately, he likes musicians who write terrible lyrics that are contrary to our family's Christian beliefs and values.  He does just about everything with headphones on.  I believe he does...

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