Teens and Alcohol

QUESTION:  I found out that my 13 year-old was at a party were alcohol was present.  I feel like I dropped the ball because I haven’t talked to him about drinking, but I didn’t think I needed to yet. ...

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Talking to Kids About Tragedy

QUESTION:   How do I talk to my kids about all the tragedies that have happened recently? ANSWER:   Lutheran Hour Ministries has recently published a pamphlet on just that topic.  It includes 13 "rules of thumb" for talking to your kids: 1. ...

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Suicide

QUESTION:  I’m 13 and have a friend who talks about suicide.  It really scares me.  What should I do? ANSWER:  Thank you for having the courage to write me!  You have already taken step five!  Here are the rest: At every...

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Suffering

QUESTION:  Why am I suffering?  Why me?  Where is God? ANSWER:  In some form…subtly…angrily…despairingly…most people who enter my office ask this question.  Some actually want an answer…some demand an answer…almost all of them don’t like the answer.  I cannot do...

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Strong-willed Children

QUESTION:  I have two strong-willed children.  They are just plain wearing me out.  Help! ANSWER:  Rejoice! There is some great material for parenting strong-willed children.  The good news is parenting strong-willed children is straightforward and pragmatic in most cases.  Get...

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Split Personality

QUESTION:  My child seems to have a split personality.  When he’s at school, he’s an angel according to his teachers.  When he comes home, he’s a terror.  What’s up? ANSWER:  Without being able to ask you specifics about your child,...

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Spiritual Evaluation

Although we cannot look into the heart of another, there are behaviors  and relational styles that taken together can give an accurate picture of a child's heart.  The following questions can be used to access spiritual development and maturity. 1. ...

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Sleep

Is you child grumpy and irritable?  Do you struggle getting him up in the mornings?  Is she developing a generally negative attitude?   Does your child fall apart at relatively minor disappointments?  Is he often sick?  Does she complain about...

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Sin

QUESTION: What ever happened to sin?   ANSWER: In lieu of my regular format, I want to address a disturbing shift I have noticed in talking to parents. The shift away from “sin” to “mistakes.”   The other night on the evening news, I heard of...

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Shy

QUESTION: My seven-year-old is very shy. As a parent, what can I do?   ANSWER: Shyness as a character quality is part of how God knits a specific child together in the womb. Although fear, humiliation, failure and rejection certainly contribute to shyness, the character...

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