Sex

QUESTION: My 4th grade son has been caught joking about sex. I suppose I shouldn’t have been surprised, but I was. I want to talk with him, but I need some suggestions.   ANSWER:   Most kids know far more than their parents think they...

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Servant Heart

QUESTION: You have to do a talk or write a newsletter article on “The Servant’s Heart, Defined!”   ANSWER: I received this anonymous request back in March.  I am first and foremost reminded of St. Paul’s inspired words describing our Lord Jesus in...

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Selfishness

QUESTION: More and more, I look at my kids with sadness because of their general selfishness and lack of awareness of people in need. How do we as parents help our children develop gratefulness and appreciation?   ANSWER: It should come as no surprise...

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Self-esteem

QUESTION: “Self-esteem” is one of those educational buzz words that I hear often. How concerned should Christian parents be about their child’s self-esteem?   ANSWER: You should be more concerned with your child’s “Christ-esteem.” We hear a lot these days about the importance of self-esteem. Many...

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Sarcasm

QUESTION: My husband uses a lot of sarcasm with our 7-year-old son. I don’t like it. What do you think?   ANSWER:   Sarcasm, directed at an individual and/or his behavior, is always an attack. A 7-year-old is at best confused by it, and at worse...

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Reward vs Punishment

QUESTION: I have a 3rd grader who is unbothered by any punishment we seem to impose. We take away play dates, i-pod etc., yet it makes no difference. I can’t think of anything else that might help her learn from her poor...

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Repentance

QUESTION:   When my 7-year-old does something wrong, he just casually says "sorry" and thinks everything is OK.  I'm worried that his "sorry" is becoming meaningless.  What can I do? ANSWER:   Often kids (and adults) look for...

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Reasons to Avoid Living Together

QUESTION:  I was disappointed to learn that my college age daughter has plans to share an apartment with a girlfriend and two young men.  She says they are just friends.  Her father and I couldn’t seem to come up...

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Punishment

QUESTION:   I here so much about "positive reinforcement" being so much better than punishment.  Is there still a place for punishment in Christian parenting? ANSWER:   The problem is not with punishment but with the MOTIVE of...

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Public High School

QUESTION:  My wife and I are torn between sending our 8th son to a Christian high school, or letting him attend the public high school a couple of blocks away.  Could you give us some input for us to...

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